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下面跟大家分享的是第四节
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讲话训练需要21天
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2010年的时候
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我出了第一本书
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名字就叫
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《21天掌握当众讲话诀窍》
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俞敏洪老师呢
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也在这本书帮我写了推荐语
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推荐语是这么说的
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说按照殷老师的方法做一做
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放大胆子练一练
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奇迹也许就会发生
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那么网上有些读者他也有疑问
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说这个21天
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就能够掌握当众讲话诀窍
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这可能吗
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这肯定是广告夸大之词
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但是实际上呢
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这确确实实
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是我通过几年来的教学实践
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已经反反复复的被我们的大学生
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被社会上学这门课的读者
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被他们的实践所验证了的
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那么为什么说21天
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就能够掌握当众讲话的诀窍
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当然首先是跟大家分享的
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这四种方法
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耳 定 舞 诀
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它非常的简洁
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非常的容易理解
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大家特别的容易去实践
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去模仿 去照着练习
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如果说具体上
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我们从理论上进行一个梳理的话
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它主要有三个方面的
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这样一个原因
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第一 就是符合从量变到质变的
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这样一个哲学的规律
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大家都知道
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任何一个事物一定会有量的积累
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最后才会发生一个质的变化
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那么学习当众讲话也是
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比方说 就是这个练习微笑
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那么不会笑的人可能从小到大
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他的脸上的肌肉 笑肌不发达
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一直那个肌肉是往下垂的
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往下拉的
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他可能内心是想微笑
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他自己也觉得笑了
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但是别人从他的脸部肌肉
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是感觉不到笑的
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你像这种怎么办
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21天的练习就可以解决
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解决的方法是什么呢
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就是练一个字
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哪个字 引
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指引的引这一个字 引
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你看说指引的引的时候
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是不是嘴裂开了
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牙齿露出来了
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整个的肌肉发生变化了
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那么你看一遍又一遍的练
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引 引
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这个量你积累到了一定程度
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它就水到渠成
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自然而然你面部的表情就改变了
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微笑就会变成你的一种习惯了
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所以这个就是量变到质变
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比方说一首诗歌从不会背到会背
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你只要坚信 刻苦 持之以恒
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一定会把它背熟
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变的能够脱口而出
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比方说我2005年的时候
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参加珠海市的
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纪念抗战胜利周年的
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这样一个大型的合唱晚会
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背后是珠影乐团伴奏
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后面还有300人的一个合唱队
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我自己在前面担任朗诵
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朗诵光未然的黄河之水天上来
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那么当时有一个月的准备期
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这一个月我简直像着迷了一样
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天天就背诵
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啊 黄河
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你是我们学习的榜样
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我们要像你一样的伟大坚强
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天天就用悄悄话 用耳语把它背
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到最后背了多少遍
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背了300遍
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这个时候
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嘴部的肌肉就形成了量变到质变
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就产生了站在台上的时候
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每一个字 每一句词
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都能够脱口而出
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所以只有量的积累
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才会产生质的变化
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我们学习当众讲话也是一样的
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大家只要按照
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我们在讲座当中
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跟大家分享的这四个方法
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去进行练习量的积累
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每天能有30分钟
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第二天30分钟
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你积累到21天的时候
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效果就会初步的产生了
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这是第一点
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符合量变到质变的规律
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第二点
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21天能够掌握当众讲话的诀窍
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它还符合行为心理学的规律
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行为心理学它有3个三的说法
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第一个3就是三天
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就是你要想学习一个新的技能
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新的方法
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头三天投入练习
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把练习变为习惯
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头三天很重要
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第二个3呢 是三周
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也就是说你天天练习
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按照老师布置的内容
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规定的时间
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坚持练习21天
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就会产生初步的效果
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也就是说
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新的习惯基本上可以形成了
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但是要想形成稳定的习惯
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要多长时间呢
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要三个月
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你能够持之以恒的
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坚持练习三个月
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按照行为心理学的理论
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这个时候新的习惯就可以形成了
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就是说我们耳语练声法
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这个悄悄话
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我过去一直以为
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一个人的声音不好听是天生的
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是爹妈给的
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但是后来通过长期的教学
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我就发现
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其实每一个人的声音不好听
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嘶哑 说话声音比较小 比较细
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通过后天的练习都是可以改变的
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那么我有一个学生
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就是在香港浸会大学
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北京师范大学联合国际学院
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我在这个学校教学
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有一个学生
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他就说过去同学都叫我林妹妹
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就是说我说话细声细气
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像林妹妹一样
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但是后来通过学习老师这门课
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两个月的时间改变了
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同学们都觉得我说话
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现在气息通畅 声音悦耳
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再也没有人叫做我林妹妹了
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那么这个就是什么
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他就符合行为心理学的这个规律
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持之以恒坚持了三个月
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就见出了这样一个非常难得
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自己都不相信的声音的效果
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所以大家只要相信
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坚持你就能够
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三天开始形成练习的习惯
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坚持三周 初步见到效果
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坚持三个月
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就一定形成了新的习惯
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不管从胆声情识四个方面
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都可以发生质的变化
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第三个理论
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为什么说21天
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就能够产生质的变化
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就能够掌握这一套诀窍
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就是肌肉记忆理论
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什么叫肌肉记忆呢
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我们先来做个体验
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请大家伸出双手
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第一遍交叉
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第二遍交叉
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第三遍交叉
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检查一下
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你是左手压着右手的大拇指呢
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还是右手压着左手的大拇指
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好 检查完了
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现在听我的口令再反过来
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原来左手压右手
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变为右手压左手
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开始第一次
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第二次
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第三次
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大家说
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这两次前边一次和后边一次
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哪一次习惯
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对 第一次叫习惯
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你想都不用想就做出来了
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这个就叫做肌肉记忆
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而第二次呢
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让你重新反过来再做的时候
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你看现在我自己做的
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都非常不习惯
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这个就是你的肌肉没有记忆
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即使大脑去指挥它
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指挥就很不顺手
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那么假如说
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我们现在这个不顺手的方法
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天天一千遍 练习21天
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可不可以形成新的习惯
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答案是肯定的
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一定会形成新的习惯
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再比方说 你平时右手用筷子
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现在就开始让你左手用筷子
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每天练习 每天练习一千遍
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坚持21天
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能不能够形成新的习惯
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对 所以这个过程
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就叫做肌肉记忆训练的过程
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当你大脑记忆理解了
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但是并不等于你能够操作出来
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你只有通过反复的练习
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让你的肌肉它形成记忆了
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大脑想都不用想
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到这个时候
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它才是形成了新的记忆
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形成了新的习惯
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就掌握了21天
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学会讲话诀窍的这一套方法
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所以就叫肌肉记忆
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那么我们气沉丹田
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用声音 声音能够很洪亮
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看起来好像是这个气
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其实它仍然是肌肉记忆
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比方说
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日照香炉生紫烟
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遥看瀑布挂前川
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这是哪儿的肌肉紧张
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是不是这个地方的肌肉紧张
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所以这叫错误的肌肉记忆
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那么正确的肌肉记忆是哪儿
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是脖子放松 小腹收紧
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日照香炉生紫烟
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遥看瀑布挂前川
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飞流直下三千尺
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疑是银河落九天
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我现在是哪儿的肌肉有记忆
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是小腹的肌肉有记忆
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这里是放松的
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所以我的声音气息是通畅的
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声音是悦耳的
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而大家呢
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如果用悄悄话的方式天天练习
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日照香炉生紫烟
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遥看瀑布挂前川
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你就这首诗四句
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每天你能背一百遍
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那么不用21天
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你就会这个地方收紧了
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天天练
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让这个地方的肌肉记忆
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就形成了习惯
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以后即使一开口说话的时候
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仍然是小腹收紧 嗓子放松
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到那个时候一开口
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声音就是悦耳的 好听的
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就形成习惯了
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你的声音就改变了
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人人一听都会耳目一新
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那么说到底
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为什么说训练要21天
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就是要大家学会四个字
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持之以恒
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只有有恒心
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按照我们讲座当中
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教给大家的方法
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持之以恒的去进行练习
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你才能够把耳 定 舞 诀
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由老师讲授的
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变成你的肌肉记忆
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变成你的绝招
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所以贵在大家要持之以恒的练习
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最后送给大家两句话
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简单练到极致就是绝招
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天才就是重复最多的人
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大家对这两句话印象深刻
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我加上动作来做一遍
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简单练到极致就是绝招
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天才就是重复最多的人
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好 到这里
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我们的第一讲就结束了
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谢谢大家